When did you know it was over in a relationship?

[wcc]

A very good friend of mine got divorced when he found her foot prints on the inside of her car windshield. After he paid her way through college of course. Actually, I've heard of quite a few breakups after one or the other went back to school. Maybe they think it's a start of a new life/adventure?

[targa911S]

It was the green 70's thunderbird parked in my drive when I came home unexpectedly. I can still see it in my mind and that was 30 years ago.

[red-beard]

In my case, I knew things were going bad when she got so drunk at thanksgiving, she had a shouting match with the Priest from my childhood church.

The final straw was about 6 months later, when she became so drunk out with some of my co-workers, she accused me of having an affair with said co-worker, to her husband. We tried some therapy and alcohol counseling, but it didn't help. 1 yr later, we split.

[pwd72s]

Only when single...but that's what being single is about, right? Some were great, some were stormy. One or the other of us decided it wasn't going to work long term.

I'm still working on my first marriage. Hope it lasts...34 years and counting. Just lucky, I guess.

[Sonic dB]

usually when her sexual interest starts to go down and her gripes start to go up... it is pretty much over. The key to judging a woman's happiness with you is mostly in bed, imo anyway...... when a woman is not in to you as much it shows in bed, unlike guys who can and do have sex with the woman even if they dont care for her.

[onewhippedpuppy]

Originally Posted by Sonic dB

usually when her sexual interest starts to go down and her gripes start to go up... it is pretty much over.

Like when you say "I do"? Sorry, I couldn't resist that one.

Dueller, I sincerely hope you're asking this question out of genuine curiosity.

[McLovin]

Originally Posted by Sonic dB

usually when her sexual interest starts to go down and her gripes start to go up... it is pretty much over.

If that were the case, a good 95% of marriages would never make it past 10 years (or even 5)!

[s_morrison57]

For me it was when her cat's got more attention than I did, I put up with it for years but finally I complained cause the house stunk like cat sh#t, we had words and I left. It hurt cause it was a 7 year relationship, but I got over it and it was the best thing I ever did.
Moral of the story is " if your relationship smells like ***** - get out as fast as you can" & "Don't date Cat Woman"

[Schrup]

When the Air Force Major let me know I had chlamydia & started to grill me about who I had been cheating on my wife with. That pretty much gutted me, I've never really recovered.

[m21sniper]

Everytime a woman has said, "I want more from you." or "I want a ring."

Both are sure signs it's all down hill from there.

[fingpilot]

Mine called me at work and told me all of my stuff was out in the front yard.

That I probably ought to hurry up coming home and get it because there was a coffee can on the front porch with a couple of dollars in it, and everyone from Oakland thought it was a yard sale.

[LakeCleElum]

Ex-Wife: When she goes to a movie with my dentist and her boss.

Old Girlfriends:
1) When i got by a motel at 3:00 am and see her car in the lot
2) When I see my boss's car parked in front of her house.
3) When she leaves he party with someone else.
4) When I sneak into her bedroom in the middle of the night and some other guy is in her bed.
5) When I realize she will just never, ever shut up unless she has something in her mouth...

[Hebrewhomeboy]

Originally Posted by Dueller

What was the final straw? What made you say "No Mas?"

When she stopped swallowing.

[WolfeMacleod]

July 21st, one year ago. At noon. When she came home from an off-roading trip, and told me she was done. Someone had kissed her. I spend the next two weeks in turmoil, wondering what else happened. Then I found out.
It took us six months to break up. I tried to salvage it, but made my own mistake when I listened to her tel me to go find someone else.

Ten years together, five years married.
He didn't even care that she was alive, but she couldn't get over it.

She still reads the forum occasionally.
I love you, Jennifer.

[T77911S]

Originally Posted by wcc

A very good friend of mine got divorced when he found her foot prints on the inside of her car windshield. After he paid her way through college of course. Actually, I've heard of quite a few breakups after one or the other went back to school. Maybe they think it's a start of a new life/adventure?

i wonder if my high school girl friends dad ever noticed the foot prints on her winshield? never thought about that til now.

a side Q, looking back, did you see signs before you got married?

[Rot 911]

Originally Posted by legion

Reading between the lines, I find the inspiration for this post a little disconcerting.

Same thing I was thinking.

[red-beard]

Originally Posted by T77911S

i wonder if my high school girl friends dad ever noticed the foot prints on her winshield? never thought about that til now.

a side Q, looking back, did you see signs before you got married?

1st wife, yes and I should have understood that if she violated trust before, she would later.

2nd wife, I should have dated her longer, then I would have known the issue.

[widebody911]

When she told me she wanted kids. For the n000th time...

[jyl]

Originally Posted by m21sniper

Everytime a woman has said, "I want more from you." or "I want a ring."

Both are sure signs it's all down hill from there.

Uh, this thread is about relationships.

[jhynesrockmtn]

My marriage had never been great from an intimacy perspective. After 20 ish years she tells me after a small argument over the purchase of a 72 911 project that she'd always loved and respected me as a friend but not more. She knew it very early on but couldn't face the mistake she'd made. We got married too young. Not enough relationship experience to know what worked and what didn't. The kids kept us together. A lot of time wasted. I got two great kids out of the deal though. So nice to have moved on in a healthy way. Staying together for the kids is the wrong thing to do but it took a good therapist to convince us of that.