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Move forward. Do not dwell on woulda coulda scenarios
Appreciate the freedom. Do something for yourself. Stay away from booze, which can lead to bad decisions and self pity. |
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Hookers and blow are completely acceptable though!
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Dueller, I have not read any of the prior threads about your situation, so I don't know exactly what issues exist.
In general, though, I think you should focus on getting healthy, happy, in shape, energized, vital, confident, pursuing your interests. All that makes you attractive, and if she is or becomes healthy herself, will make you more attractive to her as well. And it makes you more able to participate in fixing whatever was the problem, if indeed it is possible to fix. It does not mean shutting her out or pulling away, but it does mean not sitting by the phone or in your case the keyboard and then poring over each text log like a needy sad sack, no offense intended. Many of us have had the experience - a woman leaves you, you bounce back and get in the best mental and physical shape of your life, she realizes how great you really are and the relationship is re-kindled or at least has a fair shot at being so. Perhaps you're doing all that already, if so just take this as exhortation and affirmation.
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The things that will make you least attractive to her are your attempts to get her back, texts, e-mails, phone calls, donuts, "I love you," etc.
The thing that would make you most attractive to her would be a nice looking 39 or 40 year old replacement gal in your bed. |
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Man this thread just wears me out. All I am seeing here is her wanting total and complete control. Dueller, I hope for nothing but the best for you, but damn her actions are more than any mere mortal could put up with. You must be a saint.
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I agree with Kurt. I've read the whole thing from page one from the beginning as it developed and wasn't going to post any comments until now. All I'm going to say is you should seriously consider getting out and finding a different life. You're letting your investment take you down. Purely my opinion.
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I agree with the last 2 guys to a high degree.
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1. He's married so he would be cheating. 2. I think any chance of reconciliation would be gone. If he was simply dating the female I would say round up some premium, as they say, but in this case I think it's wrong. I do agree with getting out and keeping busy with activities.
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If he couldn't, he could invite me over, and i'd score them and bring em home for him. Nothing better than young hottie delivery, right? Hehehehe. |
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How do you know that's not the object to life? Did god send you a memo?
Seems to me that spreading your seed in young, fertile women very much IS the entire point of Nature's game. There are few forms of 'companionship' that can match that of rolling around naked with a hot, tight bodied 20 something year old ho. PS: Don't hate man. |
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2. Chances of reconciliation would be improved. The grovelly, "I'm going to counseling, I can change, I can change!" things he has been doing are lessening the chances of reconciliation. (Although in this case, there is no chance - long term - anyways). Last edited by McLovin; 08-11-2009 at 07:35 AM.. |
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In Ga. you would need a legal separation agreement or it can be used against you. He IMO ought to get one and let it be the start of either moving on or getting her attention or both. I most likely would have changed her name to defendant by now.
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BS-They are still legally married so it WOULD be cheating, IMO.
I'm sure Jim could tell you that any good lawyer would use this against a person in a divorce settlement. I don't believe they are legally separated, just mutually agreed upon separation.
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