Would you give up your baby if your wife says so?

[jester911]

It seems to me this car has come apart of you much like they have for the rest of us. If you sell it you probably will resent her and yourself for giving in. Hopefully you can talk to her and make her understand what the car means to you. If it becomes a point of contention it will be very difficult to not let it come between you and her.

Any possibility of getting a third car? I have a good situation in that I have a work pickup and so the car doesn't have to be relied on very much. Buy yourself a used Honda or Toyota and get on with your life.

[mjshira]

some guys think they can accomplish having 'less drama' by letting the woman run the show. they think they are going to get the physical interaction they want and more of it, and have happier wife. they think they are being a 'good man' by giving up passions and hobbies in a vain attempt to satisfy their wife.

it was said above, and I agree, if she loves you, loves you for you, she'll accept your passions and hobbies as her own. my wife never gets on me about Porsche stuff. But it has only been a year or so...

[Bobboloo]

Anyone who truly loves you would never ask you to give up something that makes you happy.

[dw1]

How can she claim to love you & not allow you to continue your hobbies?

I'm reminded of a story I heard very recently:
A fellow is engaged, and his ball & chain to be tells him he has to get rid of his motorcycle or she won't marry him. He "sells" the bike to a buddy, and has it returned to him after the wedding.

Seriously, if she's concerned about the time & money you have to continue to invest in the car, do you have the option of driving the car less?

Also, in my experience so far, a 911 didn't really cost more to maintain than a Lexus or Infinity, and was actually less than an M-B, BMW, or Jag.

Good luck!

[911Rob]

Nice looking ride BTW;

Nope, wouldn't do it.
There was a time when my wife suggested that we could sell the Pcar in order to buy a property we really wanted and I was brainstorming how to get the funds to complete the offer.

I told her straight out..... "we will be living in a tent with the Porsche parked outside it." Not that I disrespect my wife, I don't. I respect her more than most husbands and she is one happy lady.

My solution.... give her money $$$$
For every dollar I spend on my toys, she gets an equal dollar to spend as she wishes. We've been doing this for 20 years. She buys furniture, clothes and stuff for the kids. She even gives her money away often to the needy; but its her money to do as she pleases.

The last purchase almost killed me........ a 993TT in my stable. When I told her I was buying it, she didn't raise one single question or concern. She just replied, "Oh good, I can go and buy that new furniture I wanted and I think I'm going to renovate the kitchen with brand new cupboards and counters." I still bought the car!!! Call me stupid; but we've only got one life to live.

I have managed to purchase two brand new boats though and got it under the line that they were for "the Family" and not my personal toys!!!

[the]

I would never have married any woman whose view of me includes "seeing me" as a Camry (or rebadged Camry) kinda guy.

[Dantilla]

I would send my longhood to the crusher if it was affecting my marriage.

That being said, she's an incredible woman who knows men never really grow up. She is okay with me buying and selling cars, flying airplanes, racing, autocrossing, yada yada, because she knows she is far more important to me than any car will ever be. Sorry, guys, but a Porsche 911 is easily replaceable. Just check the "Cars For Sale" here at Pelican.

I am very fortunate. I've got a wonderful wife, and a garage full of Porsche stuff, and a hangar full of airplane stuff.

My wife is #1.

Question: If your wife thought she was more important than the car, would she ask you to sell?

[jester911]

It is not the car per se. It is the fact that the resentment would build because of selling it. If he was selling it because he wanted to it would be different. If you have a wife that supports your hobbies then you have nothing to worry about. If she said you had to stop buying and selling cars, flying airplanes, racing, autocrossing, I bet you would not feel that she was quite so wonderful. That is the point.

[kqw]

Originally Posted by Ken911

In time you will hate the fact the she made you sell your pride and joy and loose respect for her. Might as well tell her now either accept the car or hit the road.

Or....I hate to admit it but I thought this was funny....

[livi]

Like opening the cage of young male lions.

What did you expect ? Dr Phil ??

There are no average couples in terms of mutual understanding and empathy. Only you will know what will hold water in your relationship. Personally I belong to the poor schmucks that´s done that and been there. Looking back I agree with many of the posts above.

In situations like this I always see Frank Zappa before me, singing: "Women´s liberation came creeping all across the nation..."

Then I go on pondering the suspicion that I am merely a resource. No more, no less. In a biological Darwinist sense that is actually the case.

In summary: NO! Do not let anybody take away what makes you happy! It is NOT reasonable. Never. Ever.

[Spede]

A long term girlfriend that I had wanted me to sell my 1984 911 before we were to get married. She wanted me to get a BMW 540 sedan cause she didn't like my beat up looking 911. heh heh heh

Good thing I ended up thinking with the right head. Eventually dumped the bizotch thank goodness. I ended up selling the 911 later for different reasons to get another 911.

It's funny how a 911 can become an issue of contention in a relationship.

[widgeon13]

If there were financial issues and I needed the money, I would consider it but probably have to be pretty hard up for cash. I don't have many vices and the Pcar is certainly not going to be one at my age. She can have whatever she wants but the Pcar stays. It and the Maule are my only mistresses, she's very lucky.

[makotosun]

Man - I would have posted this sooner, but when I read it I sprayed mountain dew all over my monitor and had to clean it up first.

Originally Posted by rnln

Would you give up your baby if your wife "says" so?

Would she give up here purses, shoes, jewelry, or other personal indulgence if you "say" so?

You have reasonable reasons. She is a family lady now, no need to be out attracting young bucks. Such frivolous possessions take away money from what might be considered more "family" things.

Originally Posted by rnln

Her reasons were I am a family man now, not a single man anymore,

What has that got to do with ANYTHING? Do you still eat ice cream?

I don't have time for family, house works,

Probably more a function of work than the P-car.

I don't drive that much since I work from home most of the time,

So reliabiltiy is not a big factor. Get an econobox for when you need to run errands if the P-car is down

the more I keep the car the more I decrease its' value, and ect.

If you maintain it, it will eventually likely start going back up in value.

Originally Posted by rnln

She is correct somehow, but I feel she's slowly expanding her "capability".

How is she correct? Not sure I understand this, but if you change capability to dominance, I might agree.

Originally Posted by rnln

And the bad part is she wants me to get a Lexus ES.

If she already has a Lexus what the hell does she care what you drive? If you sell the P-car, do you have the option of getting whatever car YOU want, or is she making that decision?

A P-car is not simply transportation for most of us who have them. They are a hobby, a passion, often a form of art. I have several cars/trucks/motorcycles and always have. My wife knew that when we got married. I spend a lot of time working on them, and am now teaching my son the "ways of the garage". If you do this, she'll probably want you to get rid of your tools next, as of course you won't need to work on the Lexus!

If you yourself decided you wanted to get a different car (P-car or otherwise) it is a different discussion all together.

[makotosun]

By the way - Damn fine car you got there.

That makes my point even more.

[CanuckRS]

I think one thing that may help is to drive the car more....Take her out on dates with it and let her see how much you enjoy it...She may come to like it.....If you have kids, take them for rides too and watch them tell mom how much fun they had with dad in the Porsche..

When I met my wife, she did not like Porsches but after going out a few times in it, she began to like the attention she got...

We need to involve our significant others in our passions and always make sure that there is something in it for them...We are going to Singapore next year for the F1 race...I get to go to the race, she gets a nice holiday out of it..

[KNS]

This would piss me off.... If you are unable for whatever reason to spend time on the car wrenching, worried about reliability - get a 996. You will regret selling it and possibly resent her for it. Fortunately I have a great wife who understands that the P car is more than just a pastime. She's not really into it but she gets it (sort of).

[GothingNC]

Keep the Porsche and only sell if you find another 911 or you are in a financial difficulties

[Fronnzy]

I don't think it's good to take sides likes this. I wouldn't get rid of my car if my wife asked me to, but in fairness, I wouldn't get rid of my wife on account the car. They will just have to get along. It's a toughie, because both can be irrational and have you doing crazy things you never thought you were capable of. Just keep your head about yourself and it should go away with some good old fashioned, head-in-the-sand avoidance.

[KevinP73]

This thread has been reported to the proper authorities and they are on thier way to you right now to impound your "Man Berries". Please have her place them in a jar next to the front door for pick up. You can have them back when you "man up".

[DUK]

To answer the question: NOT JUST NO BUT "HELL NO"